A- Arranged Marriage

What’s that one thing that works wonders when it comes to finding a suitable match for marriage... actually, arranged marriage? There are plenty but one thing that tops the list is... no prize for guesses... its Looks!

First thing or first impression that is made in arranged marriages, especially in our country is judged on the basis of how one looks! I know it's shallow but it is the truth! And the radar is mostly on girls.

Let’s say there’s a girl, Sita, well educated, is a working professional, well travelled, full of talent, sugar-coatingly sweet, beyond helpful to others, is a true winner in every field, popular amongst friends, is bold to take her stand, but... there’s always a but... she’s fat! And by fat, I mean fat and not healthy! And what surprises everybody around her is that she isn’t bothered by her body weight... not even an ounce of it!

She is a foodie and loves to eat and she munches almost everything... unapologetically! She’s been like this since her childhood and that is how her body has been and she’s accepted the fact that fitting in that skinny label is not her!

She’s happy the way she is! Broad and Bold!

Except for her parents, or her relatives or her neighbours or the society!

How will she get married with a body like that? Her parents are so worried about her! She should join a gym and live on boiled food for a while! She should go on a strict diet. She should use stairs at work, she should this... she should that and the rest you know!

Not one person, not a single soul is concerned for her health! Yes, being overweight is not a good sign. But no one talks about that. Everyone wants her slim so that she becomes the “perfect marriage material”!

But she doesn’t want that! She wants someone who would look beyond those chubby cheeks, she wants to be with someone who would make her laugh and have an ice-cream or a brownie at midnight, she wants to have a guy in her life that would fall for her soul, the one with whom she can share how scared she feels when she thinks of her weight, but no one gets that!

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Obviously, these things are surreal! Do they even exist? Stop having such expectations from life! It happens only in books or movies but not in real. So stop fretting over it and look alive!

A fat boy is acceptable but a fat girl is a total no-no in our society! What I, don't understand is, when the boy can refuse to marry an overweight girl, why does the girl has to say a yes to an overweight boy? She too can go for a perfectly well-built guy and there is no harm in that!

All of this really disturbs me sometimes! If someone is fat, so? What is everyone’s problem? Maybe they like being this way or they’re going on some medications or suffering from some disease or they eat too much... So what? IT IS NOT OUR BUSINESS! And there is so much beyond how a person looks! Try looking beyond and you’ll discover their power within!

Cheers

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Welcome to my Blog! This A to Z Challenge, season I’m going to give you a ride and take you to all the places untouched! My theme this year is ‘Let’s see the other Side’, where I’ll be sharing about the daily nuances that we’ve been seeing in the same way since 1990’s! (:P) But this time you’re going to ponder over it a bit differently.

Stay tuned to find out what's more in store!

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Turmoil times, What you do, eh?

Why do we hurt people we don't want to? Why do we say things we shouldn't? What's done can't be undone but what can be done is give time and the situation will come, time and again where you can show your true worth, where you do what you want to do and people will see and realise who you truly are. Till then you can't do anything about it.

Nothing at all. Period.

                                                                                             

There are people in the world who love their loved ones more than themselves. I am one of them. When it comes to loving people, I tend to love them more than myself. I know I should love myself first and I sure do, but somehow, subconsciously I love them more, without my will. It just happens. And later I realise they weren’t wrong when things turned bad, but I was the one who was too sensitive to such matters, I was the one who went beyond and gave myself unconditionally to them, and hence I end up being the one who gets hurt the most!

On the contrary, aren't the loved ones lucky in every sense? And the whole world can see it but that person! Isn't it ironical?

But then we love unconditionally, how does it matter even if that person fails to realise their worth in someone's eyes? 

There are all kinds of relationships in the world and in order to take one's own stand, one need to become the bad person, one needs to articulate their deeds, every single thing they did so that everyone knows who you truly are or to be correct how right you are in every sense.

But what about the ones who aren't very good at communicating their feelings or portraying themselves right? What if they don't believe in marketing every single good thing they did and believe in leaving it for the world to realise? Does the world really have that much of time? Or what if the world never sees it? Never realise your true worth? For it's kind of a trend to not notice or pay heed to the ones who barely take their stand. Of course, they are the weaker ones... They are the ignored ones. 

What do you do in such times? Do you fight? Or sit quietly? Make peace? Or take your own stand? If you do, please teach me how to? I’m terrible at it.

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Writing Ritual.. not for Me!

O no! Strictly no ritual. It’s simply random. When there is a writing challenge, then my writing juices flow, and get a kickstart.. Or whenever any incident has triggered me a lot and left an effect deep down, writing is the only escape I have to keep my sanity alive. Sometimes, there are people who really annoy us in ways we never imagine, writing a blogpost or probably an article does wonders (I know I’m sliding towards the demons side now :P). The routine itself isn’t fixed, then how can writing be?

That's what I do!

You tell me, do you have a fixed routine? If yes, then how are you able to maintain consistency with it?

P.S- I’m really running out of time, hence such a short write up.. I know, I know, you’re glad.. but not more than me :P ;)

Linking with #MondayMusings and Microblog Mondays

Day 9 of NoMo

Happy Reading

Cheers

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