Caught Red Handed

‘Not another bite dear. It’s not good for your health’

‘Last bite, promise’

That’s how my mom and dad argued over sweets. Dad has a sweet tooth and he doesn’t realize when he has to stop and that is where mother comes in the picture.

For the last few days, mother has been wary of something. When I ask her the reason, she tells me about dad’s indifferent reaction towards the sweets. 

But that is a good sign, I wonder. And that is what she’s always wanted!

‘Mom, good he’s conscious of his health’

‘You know nothing. Something is going on’

‘But he never eats outside. Even if he will, he’ll first tell you’

Days passed and her suspicion faded away.

Until one day when mother, she decided to organize dad’s wardrobe and discovered chunks of Sohan Halwa, hidden in the recluse corner!

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Day 4 of the #BAR-a-Thon Blogging Challenge 

Prompt of the day: Caught Red-handed

I am with Team #CrimsonRush 

                                             

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Reasons I hear for Having a Baby right away! #MondayMusings

Are you married just yet? If yes, then you’re lucky for a while, but not for long. But let’s just say you’re married for 2 years now and I’m sure you must be bombarded with hell lot of unsolicited advice for taking a step ahead in your life, starting your own family and having a baby.

I am married for 3 years now and will celebrate my 4^th anniversary this year in October. I’m sure you must have got a hunch about things must have been at my end when it comes to starting my family. Certain reasons sound okay, while certain sound just as funny.

In the first place, I feel, who are you to tell me about how to go about things in life? Especially, a thing as personal as this? And this comes from a set of people with whom I barely talk, we hardly communicate and know each other. We don’t know each other and here you come, unabashedly giving all the not-so-required suggestions. And the nosy relatives! You know how poky they get when it comes to others business.

Let me throw a few statements that I get. They may be instances as well that I’m telling you.

-  So once, we wanted to buy some furniture for my MIL’s room. And after scouting a number of shops, we finally found the right shop and the right piece that we were looking for. This took 2-3 days, visiting a couple of shops and finally placing the order at the right shop. After signing the deal, on our way to home, I was really happy and relieved that we could finally make the choice and was pondering about the same while driving. And while on the way, I also learned that just the way it took so many efforts for us to find the right furniture, it will surely take a bit time and effort to make a baby! I mean what logic is this? Or maybe the logic is correct, but what timing was that? We were talking about furniture and then automatically the entire topic now shifted towards family planning! While I was secretly thinking in my head to cancel the next place we had to go and raised the speed to reach home as early as possible.

- One Sunday evening, while watching a movie together with family, during a break, A, asked if we could go to the mall to buy some stuff. Now one thing with A, is that he can’t shop during sale period (and it was sale period then). Also, when the place is too crowded, he’s not able to shop again. He would move around, look up some stuff but won’t buy because the place is stuffed with too many people. And that was the reason I was a bit reluctant to go. His parents asked him what he wanted to buy, to which he casually replied, nothing specific, just general time pass. We were anyway home, watching TV all day so it would be a bit of change. To this, we get to hear, that we should surely have kids now so that we’ll not get bored and won’t do unnecessary time pass! While they as well have nothing to do most of the times! So having a baby would resolve a lot of things! Again, what he proposed and what answer he got were two completely non-related things.

- Or let’s just say, no one is getting married this year, so that’s the best time to have a baby. Coz next year X may get hooked up, the other year Y and then Z. So no time later. But this year looks completely free and empty. How about filling it up with a baby? Well, how about completing it with yearly goals, learning a new thing, excelling in work, increasing the number of work hours so that there’s no time at all to get bored?! Just because no one is getting married or there are couple of weddings lined up next year, this year is the best to have a bun in the oven sounds completely absurd to me.

-Because you were the first one to get married and now your friends have started having kids, though they got married after you! Is it a competition of ‘who makes baby first?’ that is going on? Had that been the case, A said, marriage wasn’t the thing that was required. Babies could be made out wedlock as well! (O I am so glad he backs me up every time this topic comes up).

- Coz before 30, you should have two kids with a minimum gap of three years between the kids and you are already running out of time! Du-uh! I am 27 and I have ample amount of time! And who said we want two kids?

I know it’s an important part of life and I’ll do it only when A, and I feel comfortable about this. Other than us, I don’t think anyone has got any right to pester, lecture us about it every other day!

How about eating good food, hanging out with friends, partying occasionally, working your ass off the whole week while relaxing and chilling on Sundays, all of these sound great deal to me. As of now. It may get changed later, of course.

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While the reasons are never ending and the advice are plenty, I’m sure you too must have faced this during social gatherings or family events or in your daily life. Certain reasons do make sense, while most of them are absurd, idiotic, and laughable at the same time.

What do people say to you? Do they bug you with such inquiries and unsolicited advice? Is it the same or you face something different? Do you answer back right away? Let me know if you do, coz I really need some new answers and I might just use yours.

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Self doubt? I'm sure it bothers!

The thought on Corinne’s post today struck me somewhere. So many times it happens when we want to do anything particular, try something new, something that we have never done before and it is out of our comfort zone as well! The thrill does runs into our blood, and in a tad of time, a single sentence pops up and we leave it!

What is that single sentence? And who uttered it to us? Our mother? Only if she had any idea about it! Our father? Only if we dared to discuss it with him. Our siblings? Only if we shared that conversation 24*7. Then who? Our friends? Did they stop us from doing what we wanted? But why will they stop? They’re the first set of people on earth who make us criminals in the first place! Then who else is left?

O.. yeah..!! How can I forget to mention about my, err, our alter-ego! Well yes.. the inside us.. who knows every minute detail of our lives and keeps us knocking apart from what we want to do! Yes, it does tells us right things as well at times. But like I said, at times! It surely helps us stay grounded, but who wants to go underground?

Self doubt is the worst enemy I guess. For we try to keep the first brick of self confidence.. and there it comes from nowhere, smashing away all of it..! And, we adults are not the only victims of it, children too have a lot of this! But how come these toddlers at such a tender age pick it from? Well no prize for guesses, it’s obviously us! I think we really need to think before acting and saying things before them! They really pick fast!

So what can be done, in order to cure this malady of self doubt? Saying/writing affirmative sentences could help.

I looked for a few. Some did scare me as well, but then if your dreams don’t scare you, may be they’re not big enough!

I thought of sharing them with you..

How do you deal with self doubt? What things do you say or write to yourself? Want to share any trick? Feel free :)

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Nerds in Herds.. #MondayMusings

I’m really humble with people,

At every point of time

What I don’t get is,

Why do they behave so grime!

It’s courtesy what I’ve learnt,

Its being polite what is taught

It’s respecting other’s opinions is what I believe in

Then why do people tend to walk all over, and think it’s a win!

Let me talk and voice my opinion

Listen to the point and then draw conclusion

Without knowing the whole story,

Please don’t create any confusion!

Subtlety is mistaken for being weak

Kindness is replaced with being fake

What virtue is it that they understand

Let me know, and I promise, it’ll be all your command!

Ignore the pride and come to reality

You are nothing but a bunch of a skite

Allow the freedom of speech to others as well

Or else they also possess the power to bite!

People, they’re weird species

Patience, tolerance, forbearance are a few words

Which gets so difficult to understand

For these clump of herds!

I sigh sometimes and forego it

For when time will come

They’ll automatically learn it.

All I await is for that time to come

When there will be virtues like

Maturity and sensibility to name some.

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#Microblog Monday- Be your Brand

Having the power to express yourself, doesn’t that feels great? It feels to me at least. And it makes the other person feel as well. You can surely bet on this. And making the other person feel good with you being the reason behind it, is truly a cherry on the cake. The joy of bringing a smile on other’s face, seeing them happy with something that you just said to them. And by this I mean, genuine words of course!

Not being a sycophant for sure. I read Parul’s post today, and realized I am so much like her in this context, and mind you, she's one wonderful person you'd love to read. And for me, I love to express myself, through my poems, writings, notes, words, non-sense talks.. that’s just me and it feels wonderful.

But for many it’s so difficult to give words to their feelings. For themselves and for the people around them. And it’s actually very difficult for not being able to voice out your inside story.

Imagine, sometimes, I only feel, I don’t express enough, say enough, talk enough!! Then God bless the rest, who’re beginners in this niche.

How about you people? What’s best form for you to express?

Till then,

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Guiding Way

That night in the desert, when I stood all by myself, with only moonlight to guide my way. The path that will lead me to my goal. I see mountains all over, barricading my way. Giant and majestic. Tenacious and huge. Roaring high and kissing the air. Challenging me to touch the sky. The barren land, far and strong. The turquoise colour and the twinkling stars, shine their way, propelling me to radiate in their flair. O mountains, please lead and show me the right direction, for I am just a dreamer, probing for my inner self and aspirations so obscure!

This 101 word dabble is written for #MondayMusings-Write Tribe

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Monday Journals #3

 

 O boy..! it’s Monday again.. #MondayMusings makes me realize, Mondays come quite fast.. with the usual morning, and the usual day at work.

You know, every day when I pass the lanes while going on and off from work, there is this CCD that comes. And every time, I think to stop by, grab a coffee and cookie and then reach home. And then comes the realization.. my all time increasing waistline that is not ready to stop at any cost, the sweet tooth that I have, the odd cravings which are so highly unpredictable that can pop up at any odd hour of the day, and not to forget the billions of calories that I feed my body on weekends.. well all these reasons are strong enough to calm my subconscious down..!! and make go straight to home!

But this Monday evening, while returning from work, I thought enough is enough (anyway, I was famished), I thought, once in a while chalta hai, the only statement that I say to myself when I hop on something sinful and scrumptious..

I enjoyed the drive back home with my all time favorite coffee and cookie..

Does this happen with you while returning from work? Do share..

P.S:- It was there on my mind, so thought of posting it. As it is, that is what Monday Musings are for, right?

Till then..

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A Date with Myself!

Late Saturday nights are followed by late Sunday mornings.. and this Sunday wasn’t any exception either. As it was Friendship’s Day, my Facebook newsfeed was loaded with all the photographs, posts, texts, messages.. people celebrating this beautiful day and expressing all of it their besties.. and so was it with whatsapp. It truly is a delight to rejoice your friendship and feel blessed to have all those bunch of beautiful monsters in your life.

I have celebrated Friendship’s Day like crazy, with all my friends and I cherish every moment when I recall those times. But right now, after so many years.. so many things change.. place, work, marriage, kids and the world becomes all upside down, with just one thing remaining the same.. Friendship! It is one thing that keeps me going.. helps me be myself.. gives me the confidence to shine bright each day.. rejuvenates my aura and cheers up my mood.. gives me courage to do things right, make things right.. Yes, all of it is what friendship does to me. 

This time it was all about receiving a few calls, expressing all the love on texts.. not because it’s different, but because, everything has been expressed and told and said like a billion times, and all of us know everyone’s story, that a simple text makes me feel, it’s sufficient.. coz we know what we have in our hearts.

So, as I’ve already told you, I have been busy making friends all my life, I didn’t realize, it’s important for me to be friends with myself first.. enjoy my own company, be my own buddy and discover/do things that I love doing by myself. What better day could it be better than Friendship’s Day? After like ages, it rained this Sunday.. making the city all wet and beautiful and pleasant. Now, in such a lovely weather, how can someone be home? Or may be inside the room, missing the quirky rains outside?! So when A (my husband) decided to curl up in his cosy blanket, I decided to take a shower, get ready and move my ass out of the house. 

And there I was.. exploring all the nearby places, driving at a mere speed of 20-30km/h.. enjoying the lovely rains and the happiness it spreads. And in this amazing weather, how can someone miss bhutta (corn)? My all time favourite.. I can have it at any odd hour.. can never say No to it. Next instance, I was, grabbing myself this mouth-watering bhutta, hot and spicy, freshly roasted. While I was drowned savouring every bite of it, I saw a few kids, polishing people’s shoes and making money out of it. And then they, approached this bhuttawala (corn-vendor) to give them bhuttas, where they were asked to get away, for not having enough money in their pockets.

I felt a lump in my throat. Those tiny sparkling eyes, longed for so much, deserved so much, and yet nothing could be done..

“Hey.. come here..”

“Yes didi..”

“You are how many together?”

“We’re four”

“Where’s the fourth one? I can’t see him.”

“He’s coming.. there he is, making his way, on this busy street”

“You want to have bhuttas?”

“Yes didi.. but no money!”

“Don’t worry. Call your friend as well”

I called the bhuttawala guy and asked him to give one to each one of them

And then came another boy, very young..

“Didi, please.. even I want one”

“Don’t worry, you too can have one”

And there they were, all happy and smiley.. That was the best thing for them and for me that happened whole day. I also asked them to let me take a picture of them altogether. And here’s the reply,

“Kya didi, photo nikalogi? Police ko dogi kya?” (What didi, are you taking a picture of us? Will you give it to the police?)

Kids..!! How hesitant they felt in the first instant and then it took a few minutes for them to turn into posers :P

I left the street, roamed here and there, clicked a few pictures.. living every moment with myself. But how could this date be completed without a coffee?! There I was, at a near cafe, relishing every sip and basking in, in that special moment!

Later that evening went by meeting friends. The picture below sums up all.

P.S: Forgot to click the photo of the coffee. :P

What did you do this Friendship’s Day? Leave in the comments :)

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