V- Voracious

There lived a poor man in a small town in the state of Gujarat. He worked as a laborer in various fields; dug wells did whatever menial job he could find. Doing this, he made 5000 a month but given the demands of his family, he always fell short of money. No, his family wasn’t greedy but he had four children out which three of them ate the food the amount of two families in a month, in just one week! It was only after when their fourth baby was born, and the increase in the abnormal weight within the first year made them realize that it is in the family. His first daughter is normal and isn’t overweight. But the second one, Yogita (age 5)weighs around 34 kg, next one, Anisha, (age 3) weighs 48kg and his son, Harsh, who is 18 months old weigh 15 kg.

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These children are addressed as ‘sumo babies’ by the neighbors. The man in the house makes every possible effort to make his family feed as much as he can. The children start making noises and cry as well if they feel hungry and aren’t fed at that time.

The mother stays in the kitchen all the time and gets frustrated as well sometimes, but then realizes how frustrating it is for her children to not being able to meet their hunger. The children are hungry all the time.

“Yogita and Anisha eat 18 flatbreads, 1.4kg of rice, two bowls of soup, six packets of crisps, five packs of biscuits, 12 bananas and a litre of milk daily. And their extreme hunger means their mother Pragna Ben, 30, spends most of her day making their meals. She said: "My day starts with making 30 chapatis and 1kg vegetable curry in the morning. After that, I am again in the kitchen preparing more food. Their hunger never stops. They demand food all the time and cry and scream if they’re not fed. I am always in the kitchen cooking for them.” Read more: https://www.naij.com/423311-parents-of-the-worlds-heaviest-children-tell-their-story.html

 The family did get a little help from the government and got the weight loss surgery done but it didn’t help much and now due to lack of funds, the father is now going to sell his kidney in order to make a fund for his morbidly obese three children’s treatment.

Initially, when their daughter was weak, they fed her more and more, due to which she got indulged in the habit of eating voraciously.

The man feels helpless. He can see how harmful it is going to get for his daughters in the future and yet the only option he is left with, is feeding them day and night.

When I discussed this with a couple of people, their response kind of shocked me. People suggested, that the family to give their children to an orphanage or ask anyone to adopt them or simply send them away rather than selling the kidney! Sometimes, I feel how can people simply suggest of abandoning the child when they are parents themselves! I fail to put myself in their shoes and understand their perspective. Parents do every possible thing that they can in the world, for their children. Sending them away would be the last thing to do! 

All I wish for the family is to get the right treatment for their children and find a solution to overcome this huge problem.

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Welcome to my Blog! This A to Z Challenge, my theme is ‘Let’s see the other Side’. Through this theme, I'm trying to giving voice lot of things that go around us and yet I can't do much to bring about the change. I feel, sharing my thoughts in my space here will somewhere make someone think and bring about the change we all want to see!
where I’ll be sharing about the daily nuances that we’ve been seeing in the same way since 1990’s! (:P) But this time you’re going to ponder over it a bit differently.

Feel free to express your thoughts and I'd be all ears!

I hope you have a great time here!

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T- Time

‘No, mumma...  I’m not hungry!’

‘Please eat a little bit, dear’

‘Nooo... I don’t want to... I want to sleep’

‘First, eat a little... then you will have a good sleep’

‘No...!’

‘Okay, watch your favorite cartoon and eat... is that okay?’

‘I guess...’

And that is how the routine becomes. The child wouldn’t eat without the gadget and would continue to cry endlessly, to the point that they start to lose their mind... and in the midst of all this, if they let their child spend a few minutes which turn into hours with the gadgets, so that they can get some time to themselves or a little alone time, which promises silence for a change, does sound like a win-win situation at that point!

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Sometimes, when mothers want some time to themselves, they end up making their children sit in front of the TV so that they can have some peace for a while! There are a lot of children who don’t want to eat at all... anything at all for that matter, in those cases I’ve seen them feeding their child only French fries or only ice-cream 24*7... Because like this, at least something is going inside their body! 

They do realize it’s not healthy but then not eating too isn’t. Yes, they’ve tried not serving anything at all for hours and yet it didn’t work!

I don’t know if it’s right or wrong... but I do know that they hear a lot from the family and peers about this!

What do you think about this? Is it wrong to let your child play with the gadget if you want some peace or if you want to make your child eat anything peacefully, just give them an electronic device and they will be all fine?

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Welcome to my Blog! This A to Z Challenge, my theme is ‘Let’s see the other Side’. Through this theme, I'm trying to giving voice lot of things that go around us and yet I can't do much to bring about the change. I feel, sharing my thoughts in my space here will somewhere make someone think and bring about the change we all want to see!
where I’ll be sharing about the daily nuances that we’ve been seeing in the same way since 1990’s! (:P) But this time you’re going to ponder over it a bit differently.

Feel free to express your thoughts and I'd be all ears!

I hope you have a great time here!

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M- unabashed Mother

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When you’re on your own, doesn’t matter if you’re a boy or a girl, you do a lot of things in life. Some are selfless and some are selfish which means that you’re accountable only to yourself and you don’t need to answer anyone. You live the way you want, eat, sleep, go out or take random trips without being dependent on anyone. But once you get married, things change.

You need to think of your partner as well before making a big decision and involve them as well, which is totally fine.

But when you have kids, things turn upside down for both of you.

Now here is something, that mostly happens or what is generally done. Of course, there are exceptions to it.

So you do things the way you’ve seen them being done. If you’ve had your first baby as a girl, you don’t feel guilty about getting a test done for the second child and wish for it to be a boy. Not to mention, I doubt if anyone would go to see if their second child is daughter because they already have a son!

And now you’re the mother. And being the mother gives you every right to your child for its well-being. You will do everything possible if it’s good for the child.

It is all about that moment, which barely lasts a second but your mind comes across those thousands of thoughts.

You become unapologetically selfish for your family, you have your own reasons to do things and you don’t feel guilty about any of it! There is not an iota of regret in you! Why? Because those protective instincts make you do so and you did what you had to do for your child, even if it’s wrong!

And let’s assume you stay in a joint family, in a house loaded with people and children as many as they could make a cricket team altogether, you do a lot of things for your child to push him ahead, or let the other ones stay behind!

Be it keeping aside food or his favourite snack because he’s not around or grabbing the opportunity for your child before anyone else in the house, being prompt and making sure that your child wouldn’t miss anything, giving in to the whims and fancies of your child every single time, covering up their mistakes in front of the father or any other elder, hiding the heinous crimes (if ever they did) they commit, you play games as well and you do it unabashedly! Because you did what you had to do without caring about its consequences. 

A lot of people do that. I don’t know what is right or wrong. All I know is that it exists and this is all being human, I feel. Instances like going for an ultrasound to see if it’s a boy disturb me big time. But that’s what many (not all) women do. Again unapologetically! 

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Look.. we're Here!

“I have work children!”

“As always!! Spend time with us,

Chuck your laptop please”

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Linking with Haiku Horizons

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Haiku is a traditional form of a Japanese poetry that consists of 3 lines, that follows a 5-7-5 syllable rule (first and third line 5 syllables, middle line 7 syllables). They don’t necessarily have to rhyme.

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Buddy Parenting

Learning a new dish from your mother and in return take her out with you.. like a coffee date.. Sounds interesting to me. There are so many times, that because of the generation gap we have with the elders, there is so much left unsaid between. Either:

•      Because we think they won’t be interested
•           They won’t understand what are we talking about

Well, how about making them understand. Trust me, the feeling is overwhelming, for both. Either it’s about learning how to use gadgets or trying to understand what is really going on in child’s life; every effort is worth it, if made religiously! During the teenage years, there’s often a tiff between children and parents. Thanks to technology for sorting out stuff. For mother can find ways to deal with these years online and children can show stuff to parents on what’s really the trend these days and help their parents be aware of things going on in the current scenario.

Yes, technology does kills lot of time and make people farer from each other, not to mention it also brings them close, because of the distances they have with their families.

What do you think about that? Any thoughts?

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