‘I’m really fond of that woman’
‘Yeah... me too... Isn’t she always full of life?’
‘Her smile is contagious! I’m glad we have such people in our office’
‘Me too’
Just when the discussion between two senior persons in the organization was over, a staff member informed them about the issues that had been going in her personal life. She had been married for roughly 6 years with a child and is now getting divorced! Her family too has abandoned her! When the two ladies heard about it, this is how their conservation went:
‘How can she smile all the time?’
‘Isn’t she upset? I can’t see a single line of worry on her forehead! How is this possible?’
‘What is she going to do now? A single mother with no family! Looks like her life has totally ended’
‘I think she should go back to her husband! That is what a true woman does! Never leave the house of the husband’
‘I know! These modern women are totally spoiling things around us!’
‘I wonder, till when we will have such people in our organization!’
‘I’m still not over the fact, of how on earth is she not upset? As if it is no big deal to her!! Here, if I have a small tiff with my husband, I can cry a river over and she... she can’t even manage to look a teeny tiny bit unhappy?!’
‘Times sure have changed around us’
'No wonder!'
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This is not a piece of fiction. It is the actual incidence. I wish people could see beyond a smile and not judge people for the way they want to be. They would know how many evil thoughts everyone is fighting inside them but readily wear a smile for the world, to see!
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oh, you have capturing perfectly the truth about the superficial, narrow mindedness of so many people. And sadly, it is the women who pull down other women! and imagine if they ever said this to that woman's face, how devastated she will be! I don't understand this pettiness, and narrow - mindedness some/most people seem to have!
ReplyDeleteHugs to whoever this lady is! I wish her strength and success! And friends who are supportive!!!
Yeah.... even if the lives of people are perfect, they tend to focus on the ones who're having a hard time!
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Ohhhhhh- so typical! Feel I have heard lines like this too, and sometimes unfortunately women are women worst... Girl power is what it should be, sisterhood!! Great written post!
ReplyDeleteThanks Eli :)
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How true is this. We cine across such harmful prejudices daily.
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I know! Glad you were able to relate!
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This, much like your post about the girl in a dress whose mum had passed away, is something I've seen happening around me. People just don't let other people be.
ReplyDeleteTrue! In every way. Be it a girl or a woman or a middle aged lady or a senior citizen, everyone just need to point things!
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What a pity, they would have rather appreciated her several fold more for still putting up such a smiling face always. Another great post Love! I have loved them all.
ReplyDeleteYou did? This is so motivating to know, love! Thank you so much!
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Marriage and relationships are so much more turbulent in India - there are a lot more layers attached to them than there is in Australia. We tend to ignore other people's marital strife and assume it's fairly normal. I'm not sure which culture has it right - maybe we need a little of each?
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I don't know but I feel every person's choice should be respected! We're all adults.. and we know what will work best for us!
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Well these things are rampant in our society. In most cases if such a woman is seen happy people automatically assume that she is having an affair or is characterless to be enjoying life without her husband and family. It is indeed a sick state of scenario.
ReplyDeleteIt truly is. And their logics are so baseless!! Why can't a woman enjoy without her husband?
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People rarely see the sadness behind a smile. Judging someone is such an easy thing to do. And how quickly we can change our minds. Very well depicted.
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Thanks a lot, Suzy!
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This is so true! So many people expect others in a certain way- and if they dont they think that something is wrong with the other person. What people don't realize is that different people have different ways of dealing with emotions.
ReplyDeleteEveryone is different and everyone works according to what works best for them!
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I know what you mean, GG. Have seen such type of 'observations' taking place often. A chameleon would pale at the pace people change colors!
ReplyDeleteSee? I have seen this happening around me and my heart goes out to the woman!
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We had a wonderful lady like this in our apartment, and people who loved her before, spoke exactly like this when she tried to gather herself after her husband's death. I wrote about it on my blog sometime ago. Shame on the narrow minds.
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It is not something that exists in small cities, but is something that exists everywhere in our country!
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I agree..people just judge you for anything and everything. They do not look beyond that and this is sad. I hope people start judging others and mind their own business.
ReplyDeleteI'm sure that's not going to happen anytime soon!
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We have such people all around us and have to deal with them day in and out. These are the people who look at the world from their perspective, from their experiences and ideas and think that's the best way, which is truly sad!
ReplyDeleteYes... one should be compassionate towards others feelings as well!
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Sadly, I too have seen this happen... flipping the coin the moment the marital status changes from married to divorced.. sad mentality
ReplyDeleteBeen there, faced it all. Unfortunately, these prejudices (for women) continue all life whereas, men in similar circumstances are looked at in kinder light and with sympathy.
ReplyDeleteSome people �������� instead of being amazed by her strength and determination to part ways, they are reprimanding her. So much a woman in out society has to go through.
ReplyDeleteIt takes so much courage to wear a smile on your face when you know your world is collapsing on the other side. Some people will never get it. It is horrible. Glad you wrote about such narrow mindsets!
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Typical Indian mentality! And yes, it is mostly women who put other women down! Being single at almost forty, I've been the target too, of a lot of such comments. Can't understand why they can't mind their own business.
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Chicky @ www.mysteriouskaddu.com
Such a sad thing how people change their stance. Though typical.
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