We live in times that we scroll through the Whatsapp/Contact list
to see who it is we can talk to and yet don’t find a single person to rescue us
from the loneliness at that moment… I remember the time, say 6-7 years from
now, when Facebook was a rare thing and only “friends” used to be there in the
friend list. Whatever you did or shared on Facebook, those friends actually
cared and connected through it. It was the time when having mere 20 Likes on a
photo was more than enough coz all 20 of them were real likes… Friends with
whom we stayed in touch, friends who really mattered to us and whose single
‘Like’ would mean they know how we are doing.
I wonder how times have changed where having 300 likes on a photo from people we barely interact isn’t a big deal… the friend list is huge and yet there is not a single soul with whom we can talk when needed the most. We’re all busy… busy in our lives making money, working our ass off in the offices, having a family to take care of at home. In the middle of all this chaos, friends become some familiar faces we used to know. Those who were best friends are now mere acquaintances and people we hardly thought would make forward in our lives seem to be the only contacts we’re left with.
We’re all grown-ups now, we have ego issues, we have our reasons to not call and in between this we all learn to live without each other, to let go of the relations we never thought we’d ever been able to live without and the worst thing is it doesn’t hurt… it isn’t painful... it’s all numb, Neutral…
|It doesn’t matter anymore and we hardly care to make the difference, to make the first move, to see the change it might bring because of one small gesture.
Are we really dying inside? Or we’ve just learned to live on the surface and put a smile on our faces for the world to showcase?
How can times change us so much? So much so that NOTHING REALLY MATTERS?!
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I believe it's the change in priorities... As we grow, our needs and personality becomes different from what we were earlier ... Maybe that's why it doesn't matter. Maybe now we need friends who we would connect with at a different level. I guess it's just a part of growing up ��
ReplyDeleteYes... it's all a part of growing up Raj, but sometimes it just doesn't feel good to learn that this is what the reality is of our lives!
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I know what you mean dear and it's the harsh reality today. I guess we have to strike an equilibrium somewhere to make the best of both the worlds.
ReplyDeleteThat makes total sense buddy! Glad to know you could connect!
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Time changes changing the face of relationships and the priorities along with it. The way we used social media earlier and the way we use it now are different. And we are the ones experiencing all these changes first hand as the previous generation is also new to this. All these confuses us. We ask questions. One day, long after today, we might get the answer. Until then hold on to what we can cherish and go on.
ReplyDeleteThis is so true... And it makes me wonder the times when there was no social media and how the previous generations think that we're lucky to have been in touch with people from school or how we're all connected with each other on facebook... makes me wonder, are we really connected?
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Sometimes I feel the same. With technology, we have changed and that sometimes is good but most of the times, not. I think it should be balanced and only we can take a step towards that. How many of us, try to turn off the notifications? How many find it easy to call vs. whatsapp? My point is that we need to make a change to bring the change we want to see.
ReplyDeleteVery true Parul. Sometimes, it's good but most of the times, it's not! And I wonder how many of us actually have that energy to make the change?
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Sigh the harsh reality of present days.. Its a strange world we live in. Our interdependence on technology is really high. For happiness, for joys, for tears, we seak technology...Its time for a change surely
ReplyDeleteSo very true, Ramya! Technology has all our answers these days!
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I have always believed that Social Media, while giving us the impression of getting people closer, has actually driven us apart. Because we 'see' people online often we don't bother to see them at all.
ReplyDeleteYour beautifully written post is food for thought , GG and a gentle nudge to change things before it is too late.
Exactly! Moreover, what looks on the outside is never on the inside. People when on vacations, concentrate more on posting online rather than living the moment they're experiencing! And that is how the sham gets created!
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I blame things on time, nowadays and how we survive without relations, be it friends or otherwise that we couldn't in those days. The days of simplicity and human warmth are slowly slipping away. Technology has robbed the beauty of things.
ReplyDeleteMay be! But earlier too, people learned to live without each other, yet the essence of freshness was always there. May be, knowing the fact that we're reachable 24*7 makes it less lucrative... may be...
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That's some food for thought. You're right though - a like means 'I've seen this' not 'I like this'. People click 'like' pretty randomly and it doesn't matter as it used to. Despite long friend lists, we have our own lonely battles to fight. The sad thrush of the times.
ReplyDeleteYah... sometimes, people click like just to do away with the required formality but don't really mean it.
DeleteThat indeed is the sad truth!
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Yeah times have changed and we are too busy running to not miss a moment in time via the selfies and likes and what nots. I have taken a conscious step back from social media; esp SM friendships and connecting with peeps in real time to sit and chat over a meal or cup of coffee or just a drive!!
ReplyDeleteHaving a cup of coffee with your people is always the best thing to do! Always!
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Things have changed, times have changed! I cannot imagine what would happen a few years down the lane. It's sad!
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This is just what I have always pondered over. Having true friends is like having a treasure for a life time, but with life becoming so fast,so complicated, we all have lost a lot. We have lost emotions - the kind that tied us to our friends - and now, all that we hanker after is adulation (Likes), so what if they come from strangers! Sad, but true...a bitter truth of our times.
ReplyDeleteI know. There was a friendship was the most important thing to me but today, I know it's important but not the essence of my life... I hate to have this change in my life!
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We can't do much about it, however hard we try. The truth is that we as humans have got busier with ourselves, leaving very little time to socialize like the past. But then again, we have social media to make our tasks easier.
ReplyDeleteThat is an especially good written article. i will be able to take care to marker it and come back to find out further of your helpful data. many thanks for the post. i will be able to actually come back.
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